Dating someone with PTSD and so confused Author Comment amber Dating someone with PTSD and so confused He hates talking about his PTSD with anyone and doesnt want anyone to even know he has it which was fine with me until about 3 weeks ago. I am completely devastated and confused, because NOTHING went wrong in the relationship!
I am completely in love with him and i know he is such an amazing person that i want to spend my life with - i cant just walk away from him. Is my relationship over? About all you can do is step back, take a break and keep yourself busy. How would you handle a relationship breakup, without PTSD being involved? This could simply be a relationship that he does not want to take an further in his life.
I would encourage you to reduce or stop your texting to him while he sorts out where he wants to be in his life. As you keep texting, it is like you're re-opening up a wound that is trying to heal. As I said above, at this point, it is all about HIM and not you. Sorry, breakups, regardless of how they happen are always hurtful to someone, there are no answers. Edited 1 time by mazboy Apr 27 13 9: I started dating my husband long after my symptoms made life difficult to manage, so he knew from the start what he was getting!
Still surprises us both on occasion - but we have learned to adapt, have our rituals that help me stay grounded, and even though it's tempting sometimes I don't hide the bad days from him. Perhaps PTSD plays out differently in women than in men, that your boyfriend was able to always appear so happy. Pretending it isn't there, living around it, doesn't mean it's gotten better or gone away.
Again, this is just my experience. It sounds like you love him a lot. Have you thought about writing him a letter? In other words - put it all out there, let him know you'll be there for him, and then give him some breathing room. I'm sorry you are hurting. I hope this turns out well, for both of you! In my experience, PTSD doesn't lay dormant like that. Granted, I only have about as much time put into my relationship as you have in yours After sleeping next to a man who whimpers in his sleep and wakes with a start, even under heavy alcohol use, after a few weeks The hard part for me has always been the shutting down, so I relate to what you're going through Over time, he has become more open about his bad days and I have learned to back off on the worst ones I've fallen back on my own support system when things feel out of hand I'm going it alone" If it's meant to be, it will be.
It's not your job to fix your partner's problem, but you can still be supportive. Dating someone with PTSD is different for every couple, and it's not always easy to interact with friends and family members who don't understand your partner's condition. I've been tempted many times to yell at friends and acquaintances for being thoughtless and putting Omri in painful situations.
One night, some European colleagues offered Omri a ride from Jerusalem to Tel Aviv. They insisted on driving through Qalandiya, a Palestinian neighborhood where Omri once fought, even though he begged them multiple times to take a different route home. When I arrived back at home, he was jumpy and chain-smoking. His voice shook, words tumbling out between labored breaths. His eyes roamed wildly in their sockets, never focusing on anything in particular. Even hours later, he still couldn't stand still or speak normally.
I asked Omri if he wanted to talk about Qalandiya. So I sat with him while he smoked, neither of us saying a word. The best form of support I could offer Omri was my silence. If nothing else, in all our years together, that's the one scrap of wisdom I've gained about dating someone who's experienced trauma: There are still things he will choose not to tell me, and I am OK with that. And, while his trauma is a language I can't speak, sometimes you don't need to translate the lyrics to share the emotions behind a song.
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