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We dated for about a year before I left for another job. We chatted a bunch, due to our respective responsibilities. She proceeds to send me the nastiest email, I ever received. And then, I find it. And I start to sweat. I call her up, and as soon as she answers. He was smoky-sexy and looked like Ed Harris. He was smooth and sweet and smart. He flirted with me in business settings, but appropriately.
One evening all the staff were staying at a local hotel, and I snuck up to his room. We had amazing sex, and I was FLOORED at the difference in being with someone with so much experience. But my laugh is singular, and some coworkers heard me there in his room. We dated off and on, when he was in town, for about a year … very casually, no pressure, no constant contact. Eventually the way that people looked at us got on my nerves.
It was always assumed by waitstaff that he was my father, and when they found out he was my date they would look at me knowingly and judgmentally, as if I were after his money which I never was. Oneitis can be deadly in that case. I would discourage everyone from dating at work if you want to have a casual relationship with a coworker and you're not sleeping with anyone else at that moment. There are millions of women out there and most of them will be much safer choice.
A proper office romance is somewhat different - things can get weird after you break up but they also tend to be more civil. I would never try to seduce a women who is higher in the company hierarchy than me. We know that all females are fickle and you'll never know when she'll have a really bad day and decide to sacrifice both you and your relationship for her own pleasure. Judging from what I hear about the so called Western World I also wouldn't date down in the hierarchy.
That can potentially lead to very expensive lawsuits and maybe even losing your work. Thankfully, I live in Poland where you can't sue anyone without a good reason and dating or even sleeping with someone isn't such a reason yet. Keep It On The Down-low Whatever you want to achieve - a romance or a sex adventure - there is no point in announcing that to everyone.
Safety first and I'm not talking only about condoms. She doesn't want to be judged. And things might not work out so it's better for both of you if you can act as if nothing ever happened. What really does help in situations like that is your fame as a flirty guy. If you're chatting with all or many girls and everyone around notices that then it's a perfect disguise for seducing the girl you really want. Maybe you're talking with her a little bit more, maybe you're teasing harder but ultimately no one can tell whether you're serious or not.
You have to spike up her interest and generate attraction by flirting, joking and using sexual innuendos every now and then. It's also good to make sure she knows what you're about or at least knows that you're single and open to a sexual relationship. Having done that - simply ask her out when no one is around. Make it casual, "it's been a long week, let's have a drink tomorrow evening". If she asks who is going to be there answer directly that just the two of you.
Don't label it as "date", do not ask her out for a dinner or something equally stupid. Go for a beer or few drinks where you can use alcohol as yet another excuse.
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