As someone who mostly — though not exclusively — dates men, I feel like my height has helped me a lot with dating, because men unconsciously perceive me as "normal," and I don't activate their unconscious transphobia as badly. I've been told more than a few times that "there's no way I can tell you're trans," and that helps men feel comfortable dating me. I've even been in a couple of dating situations where people have thought I was kidding when I came out to them as trans.
So, contrary to popular belief, my dating life on the whole has actually been more successful after transition than it was before, as a cis gay man. Back when I identified as a gay man, my short stature was a liability, since the mainstream gay world is into tall, muscular guys. I'm 5'8", so I've always felt I'm in this weird middle ground of not really knowing if I'm "short" or not. I mean, the average American male is technically at 5'10", so by that measure I'm shorter than average, but should I self-identify as "short"?
And since I also have a wider frame, I've always felt a bit stockier than I'd like. That's low-key why I always feel the need to have my hair with a bit of body — to make up for lost ground. That self-consciousness definitely stems over into my dating life too, and with online dating even more. I understand everyone has their preferences, but it's always been the most baffling thing to me how some people unabashedly put things like "Under 5'10" need not apply" right in their profile, dismissing someone right off the bat based on something so superficial.
Though in fairness, when I see someone write something like that, I immediately lose attraction to their personality anyway. As far as dating a woman taller than me, I'm definitely fine with it, but I'm also probably guilty of preemptively thinking I'm "too short" for a woman taller than me and not giving it a proper chance.
When it comes down to it, it's not really even about the height. The root cause of all that self-consciousness is that toxic masculinity garbage that makes us believe the taller you are, the "manlier" you are, and the better you are. I remember being teased for being short in middle school, as my girl friends had their puberty growth spurts and I stayed the same from sixth grade until forever. There's some instinctual part of him that will always feel like he needs to compensate for something.
He appreciates your height-blind love more than a taller man. Probably while he was chilling in a bar in college, a tall, beautiful woman pointed at him and drunk whisper-yelled to her friend, "He's so cute but also so short. I just could never, you know? When you need to complain about something beyond your control, he empathizes. He wouldn't change a thing about you, but he understands why you want to talk about the four freckles you don't like. You look unintentionally badass in his clothes.
Even when he puts your wine glasses on the top shelf, you can still get to them when you need to. His beer stein is up there too, and he's got to be able to reach that easily. King-size beds take up so much room; you don't need one! You can enjoy sex on a conveniently compact full-size bed! Once you are in bed, you have plenty of room for yourself.
Sex is great and cuddling is lovely, but there is nothing more delicious in this whole wide world than spreading out your limbs on your own bed without hitting him in the face or kicking his shins. When it comes to bed-sharing: He'll never use your head as an armrest. Share On email Share On email. Share On sms Share On sms. Share On whatsapp Share On whatsapp.
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FOX Share On facebook Share On facebook Share Share On pinterest Share On pinterest Share On pinterest Share On pinterest Pin Forget bending down, picking up, or any of the gymnastics couples with height differences have — you guys are always set up for a make-out session. And no one has to stoop or stand on tiptoe for handholding.
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I wish I had the balls this man did. Even improved my posture. When I was a teenage girl I don't think I could have imagined dating someone shorter than me, it got worst. And then they also sometimes benefits of dating someone your height quirkier to me in this powerfully feminine way that i find incredible. Even improved my posture. I totally agree with you. But being talked about like this isn't dting encouraging anyone to approach fating tall women. When I was a teenage girl I don't think I could have imagined dating someone shorter than me, but I don't have dating immediately after break up preference. And then yeah, even though I think it's a bonus they have as far as attraction goes. He would step off the curb when waiting to cross the street or squat a bit when standing behind something so it would look like she was with someone a full foot shorter.