Smiles are a safe bet because everybody smiles at everybody. Quickly flashing the pearly whites is a risk-free, go-to move for the shy guys and gals of the world. The crucial thing about staring is that the person being ogled has to find you physically attractive for it to be embraced. That being said, just about anyone staring wide-eyed and excessively can give off stranger-danger vibes, no matter how good looking they are. Reblogged this on White Dwarf and commented: Now this is an interesting read ;.
Reblogged this on Part Time Nerd. Reblogged this on maygantista and commented: Reblogged this on it's better blonde and commented: I am completely shy and cannot flirt. Number 1, 9 and 10 are my flirting-at-the-gym techniques. Reblogged this on Blissful Days and commented: Combined, the points below will describe a guy who's really, really inhibited and awkward around women. Not all shy men will have issues that intense or have every characteristic apply to them.
I'll list some quick suggestions at the end, but for the most part I'll describe the issues shy guys deal with and let you draw your own conclusions about how to act. As with all the other writing on this site, the points here are from a mix of my own experience and accounts I've come across of how shy guys say they think. I also wrote a follow up to this article on some of the unique issues shy women struggle with. I'll break this down further below, but their central problem is that they're just really anxious , scared, and inhibited around women.
Almost all men get somewhat nervous when they have to ask a woman out, or kiss her, or even talk to her for the first time. But when a guy is really shy his nervousness is at a level where it usually prevents him from doing any of those things. It's legitimately strong, not something where they can just take a deep breath and push through it. Sometimes this nervousness shows up as the physical symptoms of anxiety. At other times it's more of a powerful, paralyzing hesitation.
Like they know how they want to act, but an invisible force field is preventing them from doing so. This could mean feeling too anxious to start a conversation with an attractive stranger they've just noticed at a party. It can also be longer term. Some shy guys, especially younger ones, have had a crush on someone for years and years, and have never worked up the nerve to talk to her. The occasional time that someone they fancy talks to them first they often get too flustered, and the resulting brief conversation consists of some stuttered half-coherent answers on their part.
That's not to say a shy guy won't sometimes be able to chat to someone he's into, but it's relatively rare. She said her name, described her and told me she was the kind of girl I would fall for - my sister knows me way too well. A couple days later, I found out who she was talking about, she's in one of my classes. I couldn't believe it, she was the most beautiful girl I have ever seen The problem is, guys are usually the ones that are supposed to make the first move and with this girl I can't do it, not even say the first word.
This year has been different though. We're both introverts, so going up to her and saying "what's up? She's not the type to do that to in the first place - although I get the sense that she gets along with everyone, I've only seen her talk to this one girl who I actually knew in kindergarten and remembered me after 11 years of not seeing each other. Her friend is very nice to me and takes to the quiet and calm softness I give off, so I figured I do have one thing going for me.
I'm only in 1 class with her but other than that, I see her in the hallways 3 or 4 times a day, walking her classes alone. Sometimes I'm with a friend and it's easy to ignore her, but a lot of the time we'll pass right by each other with me looking straight forward but not at her. Today we passed each other, going opposite directions, and she got pretty close to me and I just didn't know what to do so I just kept walking forward.
I feel very trapped and almost scared when this happens, scared of her thinking I'm invading her or creeping her out. And like I said, it happens 3 or 4 times a day. I asked my sister if I should take different routes so I don't see her, and she said no, that she would notice if I was avoiding her, and it's normal to see the same people on your campus routes several times a day. I'd ask my friends for advice, but most of the conversation with my friends at school is either about football or video games, and when we do talk about girls it's very general and not about real feelings, like I have for this girl.
So if anyone here, guys or girls, that are shy and have really liked another shy person - I would really, really appreciate hearing from. I think you could start by just smiling at her and when you pass her in the hall. Then move up to a quick hi. She's in your class so it would be normal as a recognition thing. This would get her more comfortable and lay the groundwork so you'll feel more comfortable bringing up a topic related to class.
Then you could talk about other things. If she's shy she probably would really value someone she could have an interesting conversation with instead of the usual social banter. I wouldn't rush it though. It may take a little time before you're both comfortable.
Inside The Mind Of Guys Who Are Shy And Inexperienced With Women