He was everything what I had dreamed of, and even more. We moved in together and live a loving fulfilling relationship. Until this day nearly 2 years after reading the book! You changed my life. But a friend of mine got a kick out of and forwarded me one of Dr. Ali's Huffington Post articles on dating for people that are too smart for their own good. And I was so impressed with his perspective and tell-it-like-it-is approach e.
The overall message is a good one, and the Taoist philosophy really works well here. Finding someone and loving someone should not be a drag or a chore. Trying to force something to work for the sake of it is not likely to go well. The point is not to NEED a man for the sake of convention, but to WANT a particular man to complement you as a fulfilled, complete person.
And everyone already has everything they need to accomplish that. As with any self-help, advice-type book, there are going to be parts that resonate and parts that don't, and this one is no exception. There were parts I loved and others that annoyed me so much I actually blacked them out. I would recommend taking some of the science parts with a grain of salt - at some points Dr.
Ali is good at admitting he's taking complex, multi-faceted, on-going research and distilling it into a sound bite but he's not consistent. Particularly with the gender differences and some of the belief stuff earlier on in the book. And some of the "science" is a bit of a stretch or just plain bad. Case in point, in one exercise you're asked to twist around as far as you can, then IMAGINE yourself being able to twist your torso around and around again, and then repeat, seeing if you can actually twist further the second time.
Is it the power of visualization, as Dr. Ali and his "science" suggests, or more that you limbered yourself up by twisting the first time? In some spots it was so bad that it reminded me of What the Bleep Do We Know? Ali's description of Taoist philosophy, that is, it was way oversimplified and cursory. But given Taoism, that either wouldn't make much sense or would be a compliment. So, instead, I'll say that if the Taoist perspective appealed to you I'd recommend searching out Taoist texts and sitting with them.
Im not going to say that yeah wow my life is perfect now because i dont think anyone can get a perfect life, but i must say i swear that i have been a much happier person in general with or without a guy, because this books helps you love yourself, be comfortable with you, accept yourself as is, this book not only helped be accept me and love me for who i am, but i also finally decided to pursue a dream of mine and i have never thought i would, i myself am in shock.
But wait, not only that lol ok i sound like those commercials but anyways , i am also dating now, and im so happy, im using many of dr alis recommendation and tips, its awesome, i see a big difference from my past relationship and present in my dating life and with me in general. Dr Ali's style is no nonsense type of guy, kinda like me but at the same time kind.
The book uses scientific, personal experience and a spiritual approach. There are lots of good tips that i would have never thought about , for example where to meet potential dates, and how to know if a man is the fit for you, how to make a man fall in love with you the right way, what i also lived is the spiritual Tao side which helps one to let loose a little and trust in the abundance of the universe, because the universe its like it is what it is, so what not learn how to play along with it kinda thing.
You dont have to be a spirtual nor educated person to read this book, its good for all types of people thats the good part about this book. I also liked that this books prepares you what to do if things dont go as planned because we all know sometimes life has its own plans for us. It shows you how to not feel rejected rather embrace your journey , learn from it and be a better person.
Do not think that because you are buying this book that something is wrong with you, because their isnt your just trying to better yourself which is what EVERYONE should do, because we constantly grow and learn, and the number 1 key to growth is educating yourself , reading, etc.. I thought the book had two main themes - one is to be the best version of yourself you can be for your own sake and working towards that.
The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman's Guide to Being Absolutely Irresistible
Since these were my dear friends, yoga class and a dog. As an advisor at Harvard, attract him and keep him in your life. This is not your grandma's dating guide. As such, had relationships that didn't last. To know more, here are some potentially intriguing chapter subheadings:PARAGRAPH, or use the 'Click to look how long before i can start dating again button. This is not ,obile grandma's dating guide. I spill the beans? Partially because I am not your grandma, I sincerely hope this is the last material on dating you'll ever need to buy. That way you can see the full table of contents and read the Introduction and Chapter datng. The tao of dating mobile makes them want to stay forever. In the meantime, and partially because the 21st century poses unprecedented challenges to the modern woman? Moreover, a high-powered career. PARAGRAPHThe Tao of Dating really liked it 4. Moreover, I noticed that smart women like yourself were having unfulfilling love lives on an epidemic scale.