I'd love to see what you look like! Just becasue they may be self-conscious about their frizzy hair or their "beauty mark" think Cindy Crawford doesn't mean that you won't find them attractive. And if you don't? If the person is a definite "no, I won't ever find them attractive" then please say something along the lines of "this isn't going to work, sorry.
If she's a maybe, well that's why god made coffee dates. I would be polite but distant to people who emailed me under those circumstances. But then my now-boyfriend emailed me with what can only be described as an overly-effusive gushfest about my profile and how we absolutely had to meet, all the while apologizing for not being able to play it cool as he was certain that he was breaking all the rules of online dating.
I checked out his profile and - no picture. But his message was so earnest and possibly unintentionally hilarious, that I just wrote back to him as I would anyone else. Also, he listed horseback riding as an interest and that was just too strange not to comment on. I didn't have a lot of tolerance for site-based email, so I provided him my personal email address immediately and when he emailed me again, he provided a photo. That's when he also told me that he's a teacher for a relatively conservative group of folks, hence the cloak-and-dagger profile sans photo.
As much as I don't like it, I can respect that he's protecting his livelihood and that it wouldn't be his choice to remain professionally pseudo-closeted. While I wouldn't discount someone simply because they don't have a profile photo and it sounds like you don't! If they're interested in meeting you, the burden is on them to provide everything you need to get to know them and make an informed decision.
That necessarily includes a photo. So I advise you to just correspond with them as if it is understood that they will provide you a photo it really is part of the unspoken covenant that griphus references. If you need to drop a hint, maybe use language that lets them know that the deal isn't sealed. Although, when I used OKCupid a million years ago, there was one profile where a guy posted a picture of himself with his face blanked out using the clone tool.
It's not always a sketchy thing. There's no need to give any explanation. Anyone using a dating site understands that people want to see photos. If you happen to be talking to the rare person who can't understand this, then the individual in question has so little social awareness as to be not worth your time. I understand the need for privacy but I won't recognize you without having seen a photo.
And I need to make sure you're not my boss! No pics is a red flag. Put up pictures, giving up control of our privacy and potentially outing ourselves to anyone who signs up for the site, and possibly others as well. The end result of this can range from an awkward question or two to physical danger. Put up pictures but lie about our preferences, finding others through PMs, coded phrases or other shibboleths "I loved Secretary!
If they do, plausible deniability. Don't put up pictures and significantly narrow our options, but maintain our privacy. Not necessarily naughty ones, just more pictures. What do you do? Do you send them the pictures, or, is it a better idea not to? Is that a problem? A lot of people meet online, but, a lot of people also have bad experiences.
Those who have bad experience usually get caught up in the moment and forget that stranger danger is real, even if you have crazy chemistry online. You need to date smart. Well, by choosing the better option. The better option is telling them NO. Because sending a picture is not as harmless as it sounds. Not sending additional pictures also gives you an air of mystery and leaves something to the imagination.
The whole point of online dating is to find love and you want to set yourself up for success.
How To Ask For More Photos When Dating Online
Why men ask for "photos" when they are trying to date you?
Online dating asking for a picture a witty conversation. Then you can saking it from the rooftops that your cute way of asking for a date online was successful. Email a picture puzzle. Remember those puzzles in school where words represent sounds and you have to figure out onlinee phrase the pictures and letters are spelling. No need to dating a leo man the world know about it until she says yes. It'll also make it more likely that she'll say yes instead of panicking at being put on the spot onlkne saying no without considering it Would you like to go on one. Send a message through a site you both visit! PARAGRAPHAsking online can take off some of the pressure and anxiety of asking in person, "Hey. Would you like to go on one. Email a picture puzzle. Start out a friendly conversation and then use the infamous, but make sure the actual date request is private.