I was caught in a dysfunctional sexual limbo that made no sense. Of course, things have changed and I'm a happy homosexual now. I've also joined the ranks of the "happily divorced" and I'm no longer messing around with other married men, disengaging from the experience and pretending to be something I'm not. However, contrary to popular belief, there are more "married men looking for married men" out there. Shocking as it may seem to some of you, this phenomena is not new.
Of course, I have no cold hard facts to prove this statement, but I don't need them. All I need is a computer, an Internet connection and an hour of free time. There are numerous sites where "married men for married men" lurk. There are also online groups where these guys exchange their stories, get support for their dual lives and find the occasional hookup. And then there are online chat rooms, gay hook-up sites, and gay apps that are also used by men who are married and "just having sex with men," even though they're "not gay.
To this, I say, "Bless them! Society's lack of education and understanding towards alternatives to heterosexuality has forced people, men and women, into hiding in mixed-orientation marriages. This leads to people not living their authentic lives, nasty divorces, children who question their own sexuality after a parent comes out and numerous other problems, not to mention unhappy endings not the massage kind.
Which leads me to wonder why, after I came out of the closet, I would never date a married man: Screwing up someone else's marriage is not my responsibility. While I was married, it gave me a false sense of security to mess around with other married "straight" men. Now that I'm out, I realize how much work fooling around with a married man is and I refuse to be the scapegoat for his inability to get real with himself.
Married men who are pretending to be straight, but having sex with men, are talking out of both sides of their mouths provided they don't have something else there. This double-talk taught me that a majority of these guys are just in it to get their rocks off in ways they aren't getting at home. That includes everything from oral sex to bondage, from clamps to anal sex.
No harm, no foul. Every guy has his pleasure preferences. Just don't plan on walking down the aisle or living together when his philosophy is clearly just about sex. The truth is, married men have too much baggage and too many rules! Some gay men are going to disagree with me about this, but others will shout, "Amen! Park your car on 13th and make sure no one sees you. Your relationship is with Marissa, so you have to focus on her.
Go to Marissa and tell her that this Grindr account has been brought to your attention. You just want to be a good friend. Advertisement She might hate you for being the messenger. If that happens, all you can do is reiterate that you love her. A small or perhaps large part of you is happy about this. You were right all along, after all, and you never liked him.
You have to leave this part of you somewhere and then go tell your friend. The letter writer seems to relish the fact that the responsibility of telling her friend must fall on her shoulders. WENDY The sisters should talk, you can tell the little one if she wants you there, you will be. Otherwise, you have to tell the little sister to talk to her big sister directly. You do not know anything firsthand, or even secondhand. DORA79 Busybody, thou name is Burdened.
Dating Married Men As A Gay Man: The Issues At Hand
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